A PATH TOWARD LIVING: NEUROPLASTICITY

MY DEAR READER, HAVE WE SIPPED OUR TEA AND COFFEE AND THOUGHT ABOUT LAST MONTH'S QUESTIONS?

Do you think we have merely survived, or have we truly lived?

If we have managed to connect with our minds a little more, let’s take things a step further together.

This month, let’s introduce the concept of neuroplasticity into our lives.

At its core, this concept means restructuring the way our brain influences our emotions and behaviors by reshaping its automatic thoughts, beliefs, and subconscious experiences in the direction we desire.

In my article last month, I encouraged you to recognize the reactions triggered by our primitive brain. Because understanding where we develop automatic responses reveals the areas where our consciousness loses control.

In other words, it holds up a mirror, allowing us to comprehend the shortcuts our brain takes.

However, if we want to go beyond mere survival and truly live—to lead a happier, more conscious, and self-aware life—we must identify where neuroplasticity is needed.

So, how will we do this?

The best way, of course, is to work with a trusted expert. However, I also believe we can help ourselves through self-developed habits. No effort is wasted—every bit of energy we invest in ourselves will bring wonderful rewards!

We have stored last month’s insights in our pocket, identified where we react with FIGHT, FLIGHT, or FREEZE. Now, no matter how difficult it may seem, it’s time to decide what to do when those situations arise again. This is how we will rebuild our brains.

One of my favorite and most fundamental methods is using breathwork whenever I become aware of my reactions in the moment.Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8 seconds. Repeating this technique until we feel calm serves as a gentle reminder to our brain that we are safe.

Another critical tool is self-compassion—approaching ourselves with kindness throughout this process. Just as these habits were not formed overnight, they will not be unlearned overnight either. Acknowledging this and giving ourselves time is crucial.

We won’t always be able to notice. We won’t always take action in the moment. A breakthrough in one instance may revert to an old habit in another.When we are tired, low on energy, or overwhelmed, we may find ourselves falling back into familiar patterns. And that is completely normal.

Think of the old neural pathways as a highway—built with the finest technology and reinforced over the years.Meanwhile, in our neuroplasticity journey, we are carving new roads through an untouched forest.

Cutting through the overgrowth, creating narrow trails, laying down stones, and paving new paths will take time.Our minds will instinctively try to return to the old, familiar highway, and we will experience internal resistance as we steer toward this uncertain, unpaved route.

But trust me—the result will be worth all the effort.

Now, grab your cup.Open the window, take in the fresh air.And reflect with love, honesty, and without judgment: